I totally agree, grief is a terrible, painful place. We are experience grief at one time or another; but nothing will prepare you when you lose a child. When my aunt lost her child, I couldn't understand what she was going through; until the day I lost mine. I can just remember, people telling my aunt keep praying and working on your grief; one day you'll find happiness again. Now, some people say the same thing to me.
You can't really work on grief because it's a place that takes the life out of you. I used to be a very motivated woman; now all I want to do is stay home and hide. There are times; when I forget my keys in the house, wear my pajama's to the store and just forget that I'm living. This is what grief does to me. It makes me feel like a failure and I don't like to fail; so I'm taking this grief very hard. I know time will eventually make's things better. In reality it's not that time makes it better it's that you know how to deal with it; so you can move on.
Please share with me how you are moving on from grief. I need to hear other's stories, today is not a good day.
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Cassandra M. Stewart · 544 weeks ago
I've not lost a child but I recently lost my mother at the end of April. I understand about grief even though within that situation, losing a mother and losing a child impact you in so many different ways so I can't say I know exactly how you feel. I just wanted you to know that your words are being heard and I am praying hard for you.
The way I've been walking through my grief is remember what a good friend told me: "You will never get over it, so don't try. You will get through it, in your own time and at your own speed so be at peace with that." So many time people try to rush you or put a time limit on your expressions of grief. Don't let them. Everyone is different. Take a deep breath, acknowledge your pain but also acknowledge that you are still standing. You may be standing on your knees, or standing as you laying the bed with the cover over your head, but you are still standing. You are still here. You have not failed, grief is not a test. It just is.
Again, I will be praying hard for you. as you bravely walk through these 31 days towards your healing.
~ Cassandra M. Stewart
Renaissance Women
tamikamapp 13p · 544 weeks ago
Thank you so much! I needed to hear this as well. This is apart of my journey, to get it out. Thanks for listening and sharing a piece of your story with me.
Bonnie Gean · 544 weeks ago
You wonder why you're still breathing, and someone else is not. YOU feel life is unfair, and you want to bury your hurt, so you don't need to feel any more pain. I get you. I've been there. Sometimes, I still am.
My hurt started 34 years ago. While I can handle looking at another child now, which I couldn't back then, I still remember. I still do the "what if" scenario and I tremble at times, but I can manage the hurt now whereas I couldn't before.
Over time, you will find the strength to move forward, to think clearly and to get dressed before you leave the house. It may seem impossible now, but time heals the heartache.
I know you can overcome this test of fate because you're stronger than you think. When you need a shoulder to cry on, find one. When you want to be left alone, seek solitude. When you're ready to heal, you will.
Until that day comes, you do what you must to survive because life will get better.
My prayers are with you.
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M, A, and S's Mama · 544 weeks ago
And sometimes I get home from work, curl up in bed, and pretend the world doesn't exist for a few hours.
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katemotaung 9p · 542 weeks ago
My heart goes out to you. I am so very sorry for your loss. I really can't imagine.
Thank you for writing with such honesty and vulnerability. My prayer is that the writing itself will be therapeutic to you, even if only in a small way.
I started writing when my mom had terminal cancer, and it helped me a lot.
I'm not sure if I've shared this with you before. Forgive me if I have. This is a post I wrote in an attempt to give words to my own grief, especially about how it's not a process that one can simply overcome:
http://katemotaung.com/2013/07/13/a-open-letter-t...
May His grace be sufficient for you, and His power made perfect in your weakness. Strength to you, sister.